After publishing the article “When Your Boyfriend Is Disturbing You For Sex” some days back on sundayakanni.com, it is necessary to also discuss with guys.
Manhood is sacred, and male folks have been adorned with unique glory by God the Eternal Creator. As expected, the evil devil is aware of this, and he is extremely jealous. The devil hates you sorely, and he is already eager to do what he knows how to do best: “steal, kill and destroy” (John 10:10).
In history, and all through the Bible, there are several incidents where the devil successfully ruined glorious men and turned them into ashes. He utilized several mediums, particularly via members of the opposite gender, usually through illicit sexual encounters. One glaring case study, as far as such a discourse as this is concerned, is that of Samson. As men, we should learn from Samson’s brief life, so we won’t fall into the same pit he fell into.
First, before Samson was born, he was ordained by God to become a great and mighty deliverer. In the same vein, I want you to know that God knew you before you were born, and He has already destined you to be great. He cares for you, and He has good thoughts toward you
Again, GOD endowed Samson, so he could fulfill his destiny as a Deliverer. Samson’s major ability was his great strength, and it was enough to make him a significant man in his day. You too as a man today, God has deposited in you qualities and endowments meant to help you fulfill destiny and take you into greatness. Just discover them and nurture them by His help.
Nevertheless, Samson’s endowments attracted immoral women. Like Samson, immoral women will always come your way too.
Samson’s greatest mistake was operating outside the Will of God, and he paid dearly for it. As a Nazarite, he shouldn’t touch unclean things – but he did (Judges 14:9). He shouldn’t have anything to do with immoral women – but he did (Judges 16:1, 4)
In the same vein, God your Creator has given you loving instructions in His Word, asking you to be separated unto Him, and to run away from sin and anything that defiles.
Samson went against God’s Will as far as relationship with the opposite gender is concerned. The right thing for him is, when it’s time to get married, he should go for one of the damsels among his own people – a daughter of Zion, and not amongst the immoral daughters of the unbelievers. Don’t forget what the Bible states:
“Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14)
And of course, the marriage bed must be undefiled, as God’s Will for sex is that all manner of sexual pleasure should be shared only between a married man and his female wife inside the safe confines of their marriage institution.
As a man in this generation, you must learn wisdom and learn to tame your healthy sexual urges (hence they put you into trouble). You should not have anything to do with just any kind of lady. Many people (both males and females) out there are possessed by demons, and are used by the devil to lead others into destruction. Yes, in fact, many beautiful looking folks out there are actually direct agents of the devil – terrible and evil witches, belongs to dark kingdoms, and are possessed with evil spirits. Your girlfriend is likely one of them.
The right thing in God’s Will is that, you should first develop an intimate relationship with Jesus, giving Him your all and making Him your Lord and Savior. If you are yet to do this, simply open your heart and tell Him, “Jesus Christ, come into my life and save me”
As you grow in your relationship with God, He helps you discover your purpose. This is when you can now start thinking about a relationship, with marriage in view. So, what you should do is to allow God connect you with one of His daughters (as you are now a son of God), and you start what is known as courtship – becoming fiance and fiancee, with marriage in view, and not indulging in sexual affairs till marriage.
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